My new place!

Here are some pics that I took today when I took an initial load of stuff over. Just some cleaning supplies and silverware and stuff.

OMG don't think I'm obsessed.

But I came across these wedding vows and think they're wonderful :) (Even though I'm nowhere near marriage!)

Groom
I promise to encourage your compassion,
Because that is what makes you unique and wonderful.
I promise to nurture your dreams,
Because through them your soul shines.
I promise to help shoulder our challenges,
For there is nothing we cannot face if we stand together.
I promise to be your partner in all things,
Not possessing you, but working with you as a part of the whole.
Lastly, I promise to you perfect love and perfect trust,
For one lifetime with you could never be enough.
This is my sacred vow to you, my equal in all things.

Bride
I promise to encourage your individuality,
Because that is what makes you unique and wonderful.
I promise to nurture your dreams,
Because through them your soul shines.
I promise to help shoulder our challenges,
Because through them we'll emerge stronger.
I promise to be your partner in all things,
Not possessing you, but working with you as a part of the whole.
I promise to share with you the joys of life,
Because with you they will be that much sweeter.
Lastly, I promise to you perfect love and perfect trust,
For one lifetime with you could never be enough.
This is my sacred vow to you, my equal in all things

Exercpt from "Ask Again Later."

I daydream - and get paid for it. I recall a scene from An Officer and a Gentleman. At the end of the movie Richard Gere, dressed in his naval whites, goes into a factory, picks up Debra Winger, and carries her out of that depressing place with all of those dirty machines.

I wish that would happen to me. Of course the whole time I'd be worried that the guy was trying to guess my weight or something. I realize how truly pathetic I am. Some guy in a uniform drags his woman out of the work-place to stick her in a house to cook and possibly clip coupons, and I am starting to buy into it, into the anti-female propaganda disguised as romance. As soon as he picks her up, things have to head south from there, because at some point, he has to put her down.

Jill A. Davis

I'm getting so sick of this.

Since being without a job my days suck. Nothing to do. I go on interviews and do housework and apply, apply, apply....but still boring.

The worst part is that I'm just eating all the time. (Vacation didn't help, either). I want to start taking care of that, but without a routine in my life it just seems stupid. I'd like to do some sort of liquid thing for a day or two - just to get back to eating normal food. But I don't know if I can with nothing to take my mind off of food. (How sick does that sound?)

I'll try it tomorrow and see how it goes. I feel like I should start packing, but I also have to live here for 10 days, and there's not much that I can do without.

I just want a job. :(

Alright - it's been awhile.

I'm back from Reno. The trip was good - the 9 hour drive was NOT. I have a pretty effed up back, and sitting did NOT help it. I took more ibuprofen than I care to mention. But it was sunny - about 90 degrees. We went gambling, I came out $130 ahead. (But $50 is already gone; I had brunch with roommate, got gas, and a few things for the apartment - and I need to get gas again). I had a few drinks and spent a day lounging around in the sun. Nice.

Came back. Spent Saturday with Boy. We had a nice time, but we were both in lousy moods, so it wasn't that great. Sunday we went up to Washington to visit with the grandparents - the ones that we haven't seen all summer. Probably since Easter.

Then this morning I had a job interview. Didn't go well - they couldn't work with my availability. That really sucks. I am still waiting to hear on a few applications....I'm just getting very frustrated. I also need to get a hold of the school to fix some of my financial and living arrangements.

And I still need to go to the Dollar Store and pick up the cleaning and products that I'm going to need. I move in on the 21st, which is 10 days. TEN DAYS! Ugh. I'm a ball of nerves. I've packed up a few things, but not nearly everything. I guess I can start doing some of my clothes and such.

Gah.

I got the apartment!

Oh, I'm so excited! I called the lady (H) today to see when she might be able to make a decision. She said that I was her choice, but there was another girl from L.A. that was desperate for housing, too. She said that she would call me by the end of the day for sure, and oh boy...I was stressed all day.

She called, asked if I could make a $100 deposit and when I'd like to move in. Then she said it was mine! Oh - its absolutely perfect. I'm going to try to go drop off the deposit tomorrow (along with a thank you card), and hopefully my dad can come. I'm going to take pictures. :D I'm so excited to go shopping for the basic house stuff! My grandma said she's take me to the Dollar Store (since the majority of what I need is cleaning, and thats a great place to get it). It is so close to campus, has a kitchen, a bed, bathroom, closet space......its absolutely perfect. I am SO excited to have my own place.

My parents are going to be paying my rent until I graduate (because I can't work enough in school to do it). But hopefully I'll be able to take care of it myself afterwards, so that I don't have to move and give up that great studio. I didn't plan to do grad school at Fox, but I just might. The only problem is that its a doctorate track - you get your Masters and Doctorate in 5 years. You can't just get a Masters and let that be that. I hadn't planned on that. It'd be great to be Dr. Jill, but I am terrified of writing a dissertation. I don't know if I'm smart enough.

Well. That can be on hold for a bit.

Tomorrow I get to go to the Boy's company picnic (ha - I feel like a Stepford wife!). He's also making dinner for his roommates, so hopefully I can go. I know I'm invited - its just a matter of me getting gas, cuz I'd hate for him to have to commute that much. Anyway.

Then, Sunday, at like, 3:00 in the morning, we're leaving for Reno. I'm excited to have a margarita. :D

Anyway. I'm very excited. :D

More frustration.

I just went through some of my old journals. I have DOZENS and dozens of them. And they are almost always unfinished (usually with only a few pages filled), and they ALWAYS contain some sort of diet plan, or a food journal, or something. I've done Christian plans where I use Scripture as a reason to not overeat (didn't work). I simply can't name all of the plans I've tried. How many times I've cried, how broken I feel, why can't I just DO it? Other people can? I just...feel broken. I need my eating to be fixed. And because I can't fix it, I'm not only responsible, I'm also too weak to make it better. I truly, honestly, don't know what to do about my weight. I'm afraid if I give up I'll just get bigger. But if I keep fighting, I'll drive myself insane.

And I was very excited to write this post, because I really do want your input and advice. But then I got online and checked my e-mail; the apartment I was hoping for, and the best option that I had come across didn't work out. It was a house that a bunch of students were going to rent. Boys in the house, and me in the converted garage. They decided to put boys everywhere. Now I still don't have a place to live. I answered an ad today on the school's website for a studio apartment - ugh. I don't what I'm going to do.

In honor of my 100th post...

I give you this fine photo:

Beauty.

The comments on my last post really made me think. I still feel the way that the postcard writer feels, but that doesn't mean that I should. Sometimes I hate being logical. I know that buying into that belief is nothing but heartache and pain. Yet I do when I'm at my most vulnerable (and other times, too).

I have a boyfriend now. For the first time. And when we began to date, I told myself that I was not going to make him my everything. Because I want to be independent. We both have our own lives, and now each other. But five months later, I sometimes find myself wondering what will happen if we break up. I don't want that to happen, but I guess I think about it to keep perspective. Kind of like when I think about my dog dying. I don't want to, but I know I'll be devastated when he does, so I try to prepare myself. I guess that's not healthy for a relationship. He's said that my insecurity can come across as neediness - and that bothers him (as it should - it would bother me). He can't help my insecurity. I used to think that a boyfriend would change that, even though I knew that it wouldn't. And it hasn't. It's left me a bit confused.

And then I came across this PostSecret today:


It says "We accept the love we think we deserve." What I get from this is that our demeanor, personality, actions - all generate one type of love. Sometimes it can be an abusive relationship (I'm not for one second blaming the abuse on anyone but the abuser - but there are certain qualities that bring certain people together). I don't think I'm making any sense. I just don't know what to do with this secret.

It makes me think of my boyfriend. I often think that I would like him to be more spontaneous, romantic, etc. But WHY do I want that? I want to believe that those actions would make me feel less insecure, etc. But that's not true. Gah. I love the relationship I have. I don't want to change my boyfriend. It's my insecurity that is making me insane.

Do you ladies/gents have any thoughts on this?

This is sad.

This makes me so sad...I know that virtually every girl in America (at least) feel that beauty buys relationships, and then relationships buy happiness. Since when is beauty currency? Dumb question, I know.

It's Official.

We're going to Reno! Well, my family is. I hope I will. It all depends on if I get a job or not. If I get a job, we're going to have to see whether or not I should ask to rearrange the time. I hope I get a job, but I also hope that I get to go to Reno. :D

So, today kinda sucked. I took a melatonin last night so that I could get some good sleep, but I woke up at 2:00 for the bathroom and couldn't go back to sleep for three hours. When I finally did, I slept in until 10:30. So, I didn't take my walk. I had a huge ass waffle for breakfast. Then I went to the doctor to get my first Gardasil vaccine. Came home, showered, cleaned, shaved my legs, etc. I tried to make myself feel better but I was in such a slump. The rest of my eating sucked. I'm trying to hard to just accept it as a day and move on, but it's kinda hard.

Tomorrow I have a job interview at the Registrar's office, and then Amy has an appointment with the new softball coach at GFU. I hope both go well; I'm not sure why, but I feel intimidated by the Registrar's office job. Not that I couldn't get it...I don't know.

Today was just...weird. I've also been thinking about making this journal public. I do want some readers and feedback, etc. On the other hand, I'm afraid of certain people finding this and not responding well. Hrmph.

Hello, there.

I'm getting really tired of making up titles for these things.

Anyway. I took Chance for a walk again this morning. He LOVED it. :D I walked about a mile, too. Tomorrow I'm going to try to go by myself, I'll actually get more walking done. I only did about a mile this morning.

Then, later on this morning I had a job interview at the Dobbes Family Estate; a winery in Dundee. The job would be in a tasting room. I would be pouring the wine, making conversations, etc. The starting pay is $10 an hour. Which is neat, because if I work 32 hours a week (which they want - during the summer), I'll be taking home over $1,000 a month. Minus $300 a so for gas for the month, thats $700 to save, with some to spend. That's fantastic. I hope I get the job. Something good needs to happen to me soon, seriously. (Well, Nick visiting was pretty darn good. :D).

I also heard a little about the housing situation with Jon. The owners of the house lowered the rent price, so I would be paying $400 before utilities. I told him that I would for SURE take the garage if I could live there alone. By splitting the rent, I doubt I'd be spending more than $50 a month. So I'd have an extra $100 from my parents for groceries, and then the income that I'll have. I haven't heard back from Jon yet, but it's about time that something started to work out for me.

Anyway. I've also started reading some of my diet books again (well, The Beck Diet Solution and Shrink Yourself). Well, not so much reading them as skimming them tonight. Hmm...let my add up my rough calories for today. I PROMISE not to get upset at whatever it is.

Woohoo! Roughly 2000, but I had a mile walk and a 15 minute weight training session. Not too bad. :D

I'd love to keep writing, but I need to give the Boy a call. :D

I went for my walk.

It was about a mile. I could've done more, but Chance was with me and he was getting tired. While I was walking I also remembered that I had a glass of milk and some cookies earlier, and some saltines with BBQ sauce. Ugh.

Anyway. I got to thinking; I've been getting up every day at about 7:30 (yeah, I don't know why, either). But it might be nice to just get up and walk every morning. At 8:00, for maybe a half hour or more (depending on if the dog is with me). I would love to make a goal to do that every day for a month, but seriously - I need to start out slow. I'll aim for a week. Tomorrow while I'm walking I can think about what I want to do about my eating. We'll see. If Boy can do it, I can do it.

I really do love him. :D

I finally got to see Nick.

It's been two weeks, and a very long story, but he came over for a little bit today. He's really lost weight, and I'm very, very proud of him. He's really just changed what he eats. No more fast foods..he has yogurt for breakfast, a sandwich and chips for lunch, and a regular dinner. I don't know how he's not climbing up the walls with hunger, but its working for him. He doesn't even have acid reflux problems, and may start not taking his medicine for it.

Honestly, it makes me jealous. I love him and do want him to be happy and healthy, and I love that he's taking care of himself, but it makes me want to get started, too. So, I'm going to write down what I ate today and then take a walk. I hope that'll be enough for me today.

B: turkey, cheese, egg on english muffin
L: PB+J on white; 1/2 cup ice cream
S: Smart ones rice+beans over romaine
S: apple

Now, after Boy left, I had an ice cream cone and made cookies! Why did I do that? I had two of them, but also a bunch of dough. What made me do that? It was probably just feelings of jealousy. I absolutely hate that. I'm going to go take Chance for a walk - see if that makes me feel better.

Oh, Boy made me a CD! It has adorable songs - I'll list them later :)

Shopping for my Imaginary Apartment.

So, the housing thing is still up in the air. I still don't have a job, AND my parents found out about my credit card - so that's a new thing. I was hiding it because I knew they wouldn't approve - but I also wanted to deal with it on my own. I'm very lucky that they DID find out, because now we're going to deal with it and it's all going to be okay. (Kinda). More on that later. For now: internet window shopping!

Maybe this bed instead.


This is perfect for my necklaces.

I'd love this for my bathroom counter.

Maybe this for the shower.

This is good tupperware for the kitchen.

Ugh, there is a certain thing I want for storage. I low table thing with six open squares, and then you put a colored basket in each square. I can't seem to find it anywhere....oh well. This is too much fun. I know that I won't ever get any of this stuff - but I can't imagine how great it will be to have my own SPACE!

I have two job interviews tomorrow.

I'm very nervous. The first is at the campus bookstore. I'm pretty sure that I'll get it - I mean, I'm qualified. That one is at 11:00. And its good, because I think I'll be able to start before school starts...so that'll be good.

The other one is at Product - a makeup store at Bridgeport Village. I'm nervous because it's one of those places where I don't feel like I fit in. I'm qualified, but I'm just not sure about what to wear...I'm wearing a cute linen skirt and a shirt for the bookstore - but I've tried on a ton of things for Product. I either don't feel comfortable in it, or it's too simple, or it's too hot (it's going to be 95 tomorrow), or something.

So now I'm all nervous and all shaky. I want Boy to make it all better, but 1.) he can't and 2.) he's sick. He's been without his acid medicine and his stomach is really bothering him - it might be an ulcer. He's been throwing up blood today. I wish I could make everything all better for him.

Ugh. I can't seem to feel better about the interview tomorrow. So nervous and anxious. One thing that makes me nervous is that it's a drop in interview. I saw an ad on the Bridgeport website, and was in contact with the person from the ad (who was a different person than the manager - she was on vacation). So, long story short, I called the manager today and she said that she was holding open interviews tomorrow between 11:00AM and 6:00PM. I'm going to head over about 1:00 or 2:00. But it makes me nervous that it's not a set time for me.

I don't know what I'm doing. I'm so not okay.

I'm stressed out today...but here's a picture.

I cried in front of Boy again.

Gosh - I need to stop doing that. I really, really, REALLY need to find a way to stop stressing about everything. About housing, about school, about money, about Boy, about me, etc.

Mom started giving up sugar (and carbs), so I started to give up sugar today.

B: two lean pocket breakfast things
L: pb+j on wheat + banana
S: 2 chocolate nips
D: homemade hamburger, potato salad, and baked beans
D: small serving of strawberries and ice cream
S: MORE potato salad (post cry....)

So, not too bad. Considering I also went to the movies. Tomorrow I'm going over to Boy's. I'll have eggs or something for breakfast, and then when we get lunch, I'll try to get something thats not too unhealthy. We may just get a pizza.

This is horrible - I don't feel like this is going to work. I guess I just don't have any confidence in myself. I haven't worked out lately because of my teeth, and then my back absolutely killed me today. I'll try to do something in the morning.

I really need to calm down.

edited post.

edit. :)

Surgery went well.

Once they put the IV in my arm I barely noticed anything. I work up to them rubbing my arm and saying that I did a good job - I didn't even notice that I was out. I had a milkshake (they want something in your stomach so you don't throw up), took my meds, and went to bed. I would sleep for two hours, wake up for two hours, take more meds, and repeat the process. The part I didn't get was that I kept bleeding. I had to have gauze in my mouth all the time. Mom said that it was normal - it happened with Amy. Oh well. Today, no more bleeding. I slept all night with no meds, and I haven't taken any today. I'm fine with that. I might take a nap, though.

I'm a bit worried about tomorrow. I'm going to go to the YMCA and beg for my job back...and I guess I'm just nervous about it. Eh. Too tired to think. Later.