This is the saddest one I've seen in awhile. I just....I read it last night and I've been thinking about it all day. When did marriages become all about sex? I'm willing to be that this woman has children with this man, and thats why she wants to keep him around. But then...why? Perhaps he's truly a good father, but not a good husband.

And that got me thinking...can someone be one and not the other? Could I be a good wife and not a good mother? (I know, marriage is in context. I won't know if I'm either until I'm there). But aren't the qualities in one the qualities in the other? I would think that a "good" wife (all my feminist bones are shaking, but bear with me) - just like a "good" husband, would be patient, compassionate and loving as a baseline. In a marriage there are other quirks, related to the two specific individuals. Compatible humor, spending habits, religious views, etc. These are all important, but vary on the couple.

Is it the same with children? Once you get past the loving and patient part.....I don't know. The parenting depends on the child. My parents (should have) disciplined Amy differently than me, because we respond to it differently. I just can't picture being with a man that is good to me but not my kids, or vice versa. And which is more important?

The kids. Is that why that woman is in contact with that hooker? To keep him around for the kids....even if she's not happy?

I just don't know what to think. What if I get trapped in a marriage like that?